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Once again, I always urge people to seek the processes of mediation and collaborative divorce, not only for a more holistic approach to their dissolution of their marriage, but to save their children and family from the severe impacts of a litigated divorce.  The collaborative process includes a mental health professional who acts as a family specialist to help a family sort through the issues regarding their children, custody and parenting time.

This article also speaks about how this attorney represents children and gives them a voice in the court system.  What I would suggest to you is that having to put your children in the hands of an attorney to begin with is in and of itself a traumatic experience for a child.  If you really want to consider avoiding the impacts of divorce on your children, you need to think of the alternative dispute resolutions of mediation and divorce that will protect children from the traumas of divorce. 

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Kelly Burch, Insider(dot)com
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As depicted by Michelle Obama’s brutal honesty, marriage is work and not always 50/50.  It's more of a pendulum that changes from time to time; one giving more at one point and one giving less at another point, but the bottom line, as she depicts, is that you have must be prepared to be truly uncomfortable and recognize that a marriage is difficult work and there will be times where there will be arguments.  It's how you handle those arguments and move forward that matters...and compromise plays a big role.  This article also poses some important questions for a couple to consider.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Devan McGuinness, Fatherly(dot)com
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I find it amazing how many times there are exceptional women in sports and in other areas who have broken records but are never included in conversations when they talk about the best records and male achievers.  Here is a perfect example:

Kathy Whitworth is the winningest golfer in history - period - for men and women - but most people don’t even know who she is because everyone talks about Tiger Woods and all of the other male greats, without giving recognition to a woman who has done just as well or better.

Her 88 wins are 6 more than Sam Sneed and Tiger Woods, who hold the record for the men’s game.

As this article depicts, Kathy was a champion in the truest sense of the word, both on and off the golf course.  She was an inspiration to many women, and was amazingly kind and generous, not only with her time but also in sharing her skills.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Jacob Lev, cnn(dot)com
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As we leave 2022 behind, I wanted to share this hopeful quote below...

Keep some room in your heart for the unimaginable. -Mary Oliver, poet

Wishing all of my friends, family, colleagues and clients a very Happy New Year filled with joy, peace and love.

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People usually think that the major issues for a marriage are infidelity and financial problems, which are often the big ticket items that truly cause the demise of a marriage.  These can obviously obliterate or fatally fracture the foundation of any relationship.  Again, good communication is the cornerstone to maintaining a good foundation and to heal wounds. 

There are also many other small seemingly minor behaviors that can damage a relationship and start the seeds of destruction...it really just takes a little time and effort to pay attention. 

The Gottman Institute has identified what they call the four horseman of the apocalypse and identifies four behaviors that they feel can, with 90% certainty, destroy a marriage.  They are criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling.  The video in the article is a good quick tutorial on examples of those behaviors as well as suggestions for solutions.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Fatherly, yourtango(dot)com
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Maintaining your relationship as well as a household, especially if there are additions or children, put strains on a marriage. It is important that each party is working together and no party feels like they are left doing it all. Having a we/team mentality is essential and avoids any resentment if you are both working together to make not only your relationship work but your household and your life.

It is also essential to communicate about everything and it cannot be underscored enough that simply taking the time to articulate your appreciation of your partner to your partner and acknowledging their contributions to the household, the family and supporting each other is critical.

Small gestures can go a long way. It doesn’t need to be the big gift, just simply a compliment of how you look and what you are wearing, a cup of tea or coffee or even a small bouquet of flowers to brighten someone’s day. As the saying goes: actions speak louder than words.

Here are 3 things happily married couples do when times get tough...

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Liza Caldwell, YourTango(dot)com
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The fairytale of the perfect wedding and all the plans that go into it do not compare or brace oneself for the hard facts of traditional marriage. The fact is that more often than not, women are set back financially 4 to 6 years, whereas men do not have any long-term financial impact. At its basic core, marriage is a legal contract, which binds two people in terms of legal status, property, assets and debt. When you look more closely, marriage has a dark history where woman were often considered property. You need a lot more than love to make a marriage work. 

Many times, the spouses of a marriage are not on the same page, as far as what is important and what their expectations are. Marriage is not something to be gone into lightly, and more importantly, if you are facing a divorce, you need the right professionals by your side.

Here are five hard truths about being in a traditional marriage.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Laura Miolla, YourTango(dot)com
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#Concetta #ConcettaSpirio #ConcettaLaw #SpirioLaw #Marriage #Divorce #RealEstate #Litigation #Wills #Trusts #Estates #Mediation #CollaborativeDivorce #LongIsland #Suffolk #Nassau #Islip #Sayville #LGBT