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CURED: Doctors Called Them Sick. The Remedy Was Rebellion.

Posted On: June 02, 2026

I had the privilege of attending a talk and screening with the writer/director of the documentary Cured, which explores the pivotal, grassroots campaign that forced the American Psychiatric Association (APA) to remove homosexuality from its manual of mental illnesses in 1973.  It was a great event!

You can watch the film on Amazon, iTunes, and Xfinity.

Selected excerpt(s), film poster and main picture courtesy of Cured and the Cured Documentary Trailer

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A Necessary National Conversation About A Woman’s Risk Of Being Killed By An Intimate Partner Is Highest In The Weeks And Months Around A Separation

Posted On: June 01, 2026

DOUBLE DANGER, by Earl Smith & Angela J. Hattery

A judge had ordered Justin Fairfax, the former lieutenant governor of Virginia, to move out of the house where on April 16 he killed his wife and then himself. On April 19, in Shreveport, La., Shamar Elkins shot his wife, a second woman, and eight children the day before he was due in divorce court. These are not anomalies. They are data points in a crisis that has persisted for generations.

The two cases have catalyzed a necessary national conversation about the fact that a woman’s risk of being killed by an intimate partner is highest in the weeks and months around a separation. But that conversation must not flatten the racial dimensions of this crisis. All three adult victims were Black women. Both men were Black. And while domestic violence crosses every racial and economic line, the data are unambiguous: Black women bear a disproportionate share of its consequences.

According to a 2025 study by the Violence Policy Center, Black women are killed by men at twice the rate of their white counterparts. Domesticviolence homicide is a leading cause of homicide of women, accounting for 30% to 40% of femicides; the majority were killed with firearms. A separate Centers for Disease Control and Prevention analysis found that more than 4 in 10 Black women experience physical violence from an intimate partner during their lifetimes—a rate exceeding that for any other demographic.

The problem is not simply a shortage of shelters or hotlines, though those are real. The deeper barrier is trust. For Black women, a justified historical skepticism toward police and child-protective services—institutions with long records of overpolicing Black families and underprotecting Black victims—creates a painful calculus. Seeking help can mean inviting the state into one’s home in ways that may bring new harms, including the removal of children or criminalization of a partner whose behavior has not yet risen to the level of a chargeable offense. We argue that this is not paranoia, but rather a rational response to documented institutional patterns.

At the same time, access to culturally competent mental-health care for Black men experiencing crisis—the other side of this equation—remains severely limited. Programs like the YBMen Project, which creates peer-supported spaces for young Black men to address mental health openly, represent a promising model. But they are chronically underfunded relative to the scale of need. Elkins, the Shreveport man, sought help at a Louisiana VA hospital. Former lieutenant governor Fairfax’s mental-health deterioration was documented in court records, where a judge called “very concerning” his reluctance to seek care. In neither case did the systems intercept the trajectory toward violence.

The Response to these tragedies cannot be limited to candlelight vigils and expressions of heartbreak from elected officials, however sincere. Public policy must address the structural conditions behind the crisis.

First, family courts must develop robust lethality-assessment protocols triggered by the conditions most associated with intimate-partner homicide: recent or pending separation, history of coercive control, access to firearms, and deteriorating mental health in the respondent. These assessments exist, but they are not universally required or resourced.

Second, federal and state funding for domestic-violence services must be directed with equity in mind. Community-based organizations serving Black survivors are routinely underfunded relative to their caseloads. The federal Violence Against Women Act provides an important foundation, but its implementation must be evaluated for equity in resource distribution.

Third, the mental-health dimension of domestic violence cannot be treated as separate from prevention. Expanded access to affordable, culturally competent mental-health services—particularly for Black men in economic and legal crisis—is not a peripheral concern. It is central. This means funding community mental-health infrastructure, not just crisis hotlines, and ensuring VA services reach veterans before, not after, a household is in acute danger. And finally, mandatory holding periods for firearm purchases during active divorce and domestic proceedings, combined with better enforcement of existing laws prohibiting individuals subject to domestic-violence protective orders from possessing firearms, represent common-sense interventions with documented effectiveness. Both Elkins and Fairfax had legal histories and behavioral red flags. Neither should have had a gun.

We failed these families. And we cannot afford to fail anyone else.

Entire article courtesy of Earl Smith & Angela J. Hattery
Smith is a senior research fellow at, and Hattery co-founder of, the University of Delaware’s Center for the Study and Prevention of Gender-Based Violence
Royalty-free photo courtesy of Google’s Gemini

Concetta Spirio.  A Compassionate Collaborative Divorce Attorney, Mediator & Peacemaker Providing The Highest Level of Legal Representation For Over 35 Years.

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Another Successful Panel On Finances, Estate Planning, & More For LGBTQ+ Adults

Posted On: May 26, 2026

This was our successful panel from last Wednesday's presentation featuring guidance on finances, estate planning, and more for LGBTQ+ adults, held at The Bristal at Garden City.

The event was well attended and was extremely informative.

Looking forward to the next one!

Concetta Spirio.  A Compassionate Collaborative Divorce Attorney, Mediator & Peacemaker Providing The Highest Level of Legal Representation For Over 35 Years.

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MAY 20th REMINDER: Proud To Be One Of The Featured Speakers At "How Every LGBTQ+ Person Should Plan Ahead"

Posted On: May 17, 2026

The Nassau County Bar Association and The Bristal at Garden City invite you to a presentation featuring guidance on finances, estate planning, and more for LGBTQ+ adults.

Enjoy dinner and an expert discussion during an informative and engaging evening focused on the topics that matter most, where you'll get answers to important questions like:

  • What documents should you have in place if a partner is hospitalized or passes away?
  • What are your legal rights as a couple married or unmarried?
  • What is the current outlook for same-sex marriage?
  • How can you protect your finances, assets, and future?

Learn all this and more from a panel of experienced attorneys.

Event Info:

Wednesday, May 20 6:00PM - 8:00PM
The Bristal at Garden City
1001 Axinn Avenue
Garden City, NY 11530




Concetta Spirio.  A Compassionate Collaborative Divorce Attorney, Mediator & Peacemaker Providing The Highest Level of Legal Representation For Over 35 Years.

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The Art Of Building A Great Marriage: 9 Basic Habits Every Husband Should Master

Posted On: May 11, 2026

Here are some simple, powerful things every husband can do to create a partnership that truly lasts...

  • Encourage your wife
  • Become the spiritual leader of your home
  • Have healthy, encouraging male friendships
  • Speak kindly of your wife to her
  • Speak kindly of your wife to others
  • Help out around the house without complaining
  • Invite her to join in doing something you like
  • Make sure to take time for yourself
  • Be present

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Stu Gray, yourtango(dot)com
Royalty-free photo courtesy of Google’s Gemini

Concetta Spirio.  A Compassionate Collaborative Divorce Attorney, Mediator & Peacemaker Providing The Highest Level of Legal Representation For Over 35 Years.

#Concetta #ConcettaSpirio #ConcettaLaw #SpirioLaw #Marriage #Divorce #RealEstate #Litigation #Wills #Trusts #Estates #EstatePlanning #Mediation #CollaborativeDivorce #LongIsland #Suffolk #Nassau #Islip #Sayville #LGBT

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Proud To Be One Of The Featured Speakers At "How Every LGBTQ+ Person Should Plan Ahead"

Posted On: May 06, 2026

The Nassau County Bar Association and The Bristal at Garden City invite you to a presentation featuring guidance on finances, estate planning, and more for LGBTQ+ adults.

Enjoy dinner and an expert discussion during an informative and engaging evening focused on the topics that matter most, where you'll get answers to important questions like:

  • What documents should you have in place if a partner is hospitalized or passes away?
  • What are your legal rights as a couplemarried or unmarried?
  • What is the current outlook for same-sex marriage?
  • How can you protect your finances, assets, and future?

Learn all this and more from a panel of experienced attorneys.

Event Info:

Wednesday, May 20 6:00PM - 8:00PM
The Bristal at Garden City
1001 Axinn Avenue
Garden City, NY 11530

Concetta Spirio.  A Compassionate Collaborative Divorce Attorney, Mediator & Peacemaker Providing The Highest Level of Legal Representation For Over 35 Years.

#Concetta #ConcettaSpirio #ConcettaLaw #SpirioLaw #Marriage #Divorce #RealEstate #Litigation #Wills #Trusts #Estates #EstatePlanning #Mediation #CollaborativeDivorce #LongIsland #Suffolk #Nassau #Islip #Sayville #LGBT

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11 Behaviors Only Found In Happily Married Husbands

Posted On: May 03, 2026

There are all kinds of behaviors and qualities that make a good partnership, all of which are different depending on the people and circumstances. From a husband being willing to be influenced by his partner to prioritizing quality time during the mundane seasons of life, certain priorities make all the difference for a couple's well-being and happiness.

However, on an individual level, there are also behaviors only found in happily married husbands. They craft happiness from being present and leaning into the hard parts of marriage, and it's that effort that truly transforms the relationship for the better.

Here are 11 behaviors only found in happily married husbands...

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Zayda Slabberkoom, yourtango(dot)com
Royalty-free photo courtesy of Google’s Gemini

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When Is Divorce a Solution to Marriage Problems?

Posted On: April 27, 2026

Building and sustaining a loving marriage is one of the most—maybe even the most—important life focus. Why? Much research has established that marriage generally brings major benefits to participants' lives. Married folks, statistically, have better physical health, enjoy more feelings of well-being (emotional health), and even end up better off financially.

Still, when marriage partners argue, engage in behaviors that their spouse finds unacceptable, or repeatedly bump up against differences that cause ongoing tensions, the conflicts can result in a marriage that creates more stress than satisfaction.

With that in mind, Is divorce ever a legitimate part of a win-win solution? Here's some current thinking on that question.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Jessica Schrader, psychologytoday(dot)com
Royalty-free photo courtesy of Google’s Gemini

Concetta Spirio.  A Compassionate Collaborative Divorce Attorney, Mediator & Peacemaker Providing The Highest Level of Legal Representation For Over 35 Years.

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