People usually think that the major issues for a marriage are infidelity and financial problems, which are often the big ticket items that truly cause the demise of a marriage. These can obviously obliterate or fatally fracture the foundation of any relationship. Again, good communication is the cornerstone to maintaining a good foundation and to heal wounds.
There are also many other small seemingly minor behaviors that can damage a relationship and start the seeds of destruction...it really just takes a little time and effort to pay attention.
The Gottman Institute has identified what they call the four horseman of the apocalypse and identifies four behaviors that they feel can, with 90% certainty, destroy a marriage. They are criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. The video in the article is a good quick tutorial on examples of those behaviors as well as suggestions for solutions.
Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Fatherly, yourtango(dot)com
Royalty-free photo courtesy of Pixabay
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