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Many people don't realize until they are going through it, the extreme stress that the divorce process creates for the parties.  Other than the death of a child or spouse, getting divorced can be one of the most horrific times of a person's life.  This stress is guaranteed to last for several months and for some, years, depending on whether the parties go through a litigated and highly contested divorce or choose an alternative method with a more holistic approach, such as Mediation and Collaborative Divorce.  Having to appear in the Courthouse; going into a Courtroom; and being addressed by a Judge who now has control over your life and your children is extremely scary and stressful for most people. This is why using Collaborative or Mediation is extremely helpful in alleviating much of the stress caused by the Court System.  In both Collaborative Divorce and Mediation the parties never have to personally go to Court; only their paperwork goes to the Courthouse to get processed.  That is a big difference and it alleviates a tremendous amount of stress for the parties.

Even under the best of circumstances, the dissolution of a marriage or a significant life partner relationship has inherit stress and has highly charged emotional aspects.  Even when you are choosing a holistic approach, stress is involved.  That is why using the Collaborative method is so beneficial.  One of the members of the professional team is a mental health specialist who acts as a family specialist or divorce coach, helping guide the couple and navigating through difficult communication. 

This article highlights different tips that you can take on how to help yourself through the stress.  One being getting a therapist or a divorce coach that you can use as a sounding board and help you navigate some of the difficult issues.  Getting organized, making a plan, doing your homework and finding out about the different processes available to you, other than costly litigation, well before you choose to take those first steps towards getting divorced.  Most people feel much better when they get organized and have a plan of action.  Just taking small baby steps of getting information can help you feel more grounded and help you organize and choose a better path going forward. 

I feel taking positive action towards moving forward in a positive way are some of the biggest steps that you can take to help alleviate stress and help support yourself through an extremely difficult time.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Karen Covy of Your Tango Blog; Photo courtesy of UNSPLASH/TRENT SZMOLNIK.

Gray divorces (divorces for people over 50) can be very complicated because of lack of future earnings, resolution of retirement assets and how two people who plan to live together in retirement now must live apart in retirement.

Even more important once you are divorced, what if you want to live with someone again?  What are the ramifications of that decision and what are the things you should think about before committing to moving in with another person in an intimate relationship? 

This article addresses these concerns and some things you should really think about before taking the leap once again. 

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Jeanne Sahadi, cnn(dot)com
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To warring parents, splitting up often feels like the only answer. But as Jane Green reveals from bitter experience, the fallout - for your children, your friends and yourself - can be worse than you imagined.

Most people do not realize that divorce is like a bomb going off, not only for the family, but for their extended family, their children and their friends as well.  Actor Ewan McGregor was quoted as saying that “a divorce in a family is a bomb going off in everyone’s lives…”. 

This article gives a different perspective from someone who went through a traditional divorce, and after handling the fall out of their “bomb going off," now believes in retrospect that it may have been better for their children to have stayed in a miserable marriage rather than have the family and children go through the effects of a divorce.

I would note, however, that divorce at any age, including a “gray” divorce, has an impact on children. No matter what age the children are when a divorce happens, they are impacted. Obviously, this is something that each person contemplating a divorce must think through to see what is best for them and their family.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Jane Green, DailyMail(dot)co(dot)uk
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Divorce is one of the most emotionally difficult and stressful times of anyone’s life.

Sound financial planning may not be the first thing on a divorcing couple’s mind. However, it should be one of the first considerations addressed. Many times, during the hostility and in some cases out-right war of a divorce, people make mistakes or become so frustrated and worn down that they give up, give in and fail to secure their financial future. Too often they leave themselves vulnerable and with a financial picture that is unsustainable and often unrecoverable.

It is important during this time NOT to ignore your current and future financial circumstances. It also may be extremely important and worthwhile to bring a financial professional in to consult and help evaluate a couple’s options for the benefit of both parties’ financial future.

The truth is, in many divorces, a person’s current and future well-being may be impacted more than any other aspect of their lives going forward. Parties to a divorce may be forced to make major financial decisions in a short period of time without properly reflecting upon their options. Being in a highly stressed and emotionally charged environment, trying to handle the termination and dissolution of their marriage is NOT the environment to make such impactful decisions. 

Just by its very nature, this is not a good recipe for sound decision making. That is why it is most important to have the right professionals to guide and help you through this process.

The collaborative process offers a team of professionals (including a trained Financial Professional) who are there to help and guide you, as well as work towards a creative solution so that all members of a family survive in the best of circumstances, notwithstanding the devastating effects that a divorce may have.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Andrew Osterland, cnbc(dot)com
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Covid-19 has created so many unforeseen circumstances.  For many it has created more stress; however, for some it has actually created positive results.  For this divorced couple who were forced to co-parent differently as a result of Covid, it has actually strengthened their relationship.

As I have stressed many times in the past, alternative disputed resolution processes, such as Mediation and Collaborative Divorce, are the better paths to take to resolve conflicts outside the court system.  Notwithstanding what these lawyers think, you should first research a divorce lawyer...my suggestion is to first look into alternative disputes professionals like mediators and collaborative divorce attorneys.  I would even go so far as to seek out a collaborative divorce lawyer first, since if you are not aware of how the processes work, you will at least get the perspective of what happens in litigation verses mediation and collaborative divorce.  They can help guide you on what is best for you and your family. 

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Kelsey Borresen, HuffPost(dot)com
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This article discusses several perils of divorce later in life.  Unfortunately, gray divorce as it is known is becoming more common and creates its own unique challenges. 

Finances can be extremely complicated, especially when a couple has planned for many years together.  Unwinding that to move on separately can become very difficult. 

The effects on adult children also should not be underestimated.  Divorce affects every child, regardless of age. 

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Ann Gold Buscho Ph.D., PsychologyToday(dot)com
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Most people are aware there is a statistic that says 50% of all marriages end in divorce. Today this is not totally accurate based upon the choice of some not to marry and a slight decrease in the divorces due to various reasons. 

This article gives food for thought, when you see signs that your marriage is not working out. Like you can’t remember the last time you were intimate; you want your spouse to change, but they just can’t. These are all items to consider in evaluating your relationship and/or seeking a way to make the marriage work. 

If you truly are facing a dissolution of your marriage or you have a major conflict to resolve, there are better ways than going through the court system. The Collaborative Process, to resolve conflict, and, if necessary, help a couple or family through divorce, is an amazing process that is not only more cost efficient but a more holistic approach, giving your family the confidence, confidentiality and tools to survive what could be a devastating event in your life. 

If you have any question, please feel free to call my office for a free fifteen (15) minute consultation. 

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Brand Partner Agency, VillageVoice(dot)com
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