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Relationships are easy when things are going well and everyone is happy.  It's the tough times that challenge us to keep harmony - when things are going wrong and the stress level is high that really test the strength of our relationships. 

I think this era, with the pandemic and all that we have endured, has been an unprecedented time and challenge for our relationships.  It is often never one crisis or stressful event that causes the breakup of a strong partnership.  It's helpful when couples are flexible, empathetic and team oriented in their approach to problems. 

This article points to 8 traits that significantly help couples manage the storms and stay together through difficult, and what may seem like impossible, times or circumstances.  I find it interesting that the most important ingredient from the studies have shown, that to sustain a long term relationship, it is important to be emotionally accessible or available to one another.  I have always said that communication, honesty and respect are a great foundation to building any relationship.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Virginia Pelley, Fatherly
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Not getting divorced under the belief that parents should stay together for the sake of their children has been challenged by many.  The idea of a child living in a war torn home can have its own effects, regardless of a couple’s desire to stay together for their benefit.  This article highlights one mother who found divorce and shared custody to be an absolute salvation, not only for herself but actually extremely beneficial for her children.  Having two separate homes and two separate parents being responsible for their children can relieve the totality of the burden of one parent being 100% responsible for their children all the time. 

Working out positive results such as those mentioned requires cooperative parties/parents. 

If you are facing a divorce, the Collaborative Divorce process often helps couples navigate through the toxic parts of the dissolution and provides support and tools to move forward in a more positive way for themselves and for their co-parenting. 

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Stephanie Portell, YourTango(dot)com
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I know most of you have been seeing the reports, and the reality is that the coronavirus pandemic has brought about an increase in divorce.  Experts are predicting that those numbers will continue to climb as the pandemic continues.  This may not apply to all women, however many times it is more often the rule than not, but the fact is, the majority of the time, due to the disparities in earning capacity as well as choice in child rearing, women are not as financially equipped to handle the devastation of a divorce as men.  As this article points out, it would behoove women to tread carefully and be particularly savvy during this time.  Do not take drastic action but rather plan financially for the dissolution that you see coming.  Again, in this article, a study in the Journal demographic found that both men and women are hurt economically by a divorce, but men recover more quickly due to the disparity of earning capacity and the realities of the business world.  As this article quotes women have disproportionate losses in household income and assets and increase in risk of poverty and single parenting.

Interestingly, the report concluded that for men, divorce is an economic pot hole, and for a woman it can be a cliff.  That is a very clear and visual description of the extreme differences between the economic impact for men and women.

First off, this article expresses the need for couples to have additional help in the form of couples counseling. As in any therapy, a person, or a couple in this case, will learn new skills and insights on how to resolve issues or have better skills in dealing with different situations and stresses. 

This article also highlights some very serious issues that if not corrected will lead a couple to dissolve their relationship. Some of these issues are loss of respect for your partner, imbalanced accountability, lopsided communication and a defeatist attitude, as well as the absence of true empathy.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Jessica G Hartshorn, scarymommy(dot)com
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It's extremely important, notwithstanding the “love fog” that starts when you meet somebody and fall in love, to take time to really slow down and get to know one another on a deeper level. Beginnings of relationships are happy and fun and can move exponentially fast.  The great first impression everyone gives when they are dating is not a true reflection of who they are as a person.  You really need to dig deep and find out about each other before you choose to walk down the aisle.

You want to know and see the “true character” of the person you are planning to be a significant person/partner with in your life.  Their character alone can shed light on the compatibility of a future together.

This article highlights seven other items that you should really explore and get to know about each other, your families and what you wish and dream for the future.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Dave Elliot, YourTango(dot)com
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This article depicts a very toxic divorce battle that ended up costing the couple and their family millions of dollars, to the point that the Judge was horrified that there was little left for the children of this marriage. 

This rarely happens in high equity cases. People of moderate means often times get so involved in a toxic litigated divorce that they basically turn all of their assets over to cover the costs of litigating the divorce. 

There is a better way for every family to divorce with dignity, confidentiality and with their financial, emotional and physical health in a healthier position, rather than what they will experience through a litigated divorce. 

The collaborative process is meant for ALL families.  It is truly a holistic approach that is the most cost effective to resolve a dissolution of a marriage or primary relationship in an amicable and economical way. 

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Barbara Davies, dailymail.co(dot)uk
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This article gets your attention with the announced filing by Jennifer Lopez for divorce from Ben Affleck on the anniversary of their second wedding.  This is the second time this couple has split after 2 years into their relationship.  The first time was years ago when they chose not to marry and the second time they actually filed for divorce. 

Although most people think newlyweds are blissfully happy, the first years of marriage can be turbulent and difficult.  

On the other end of the spectrum gray divorce has its own complexity.  Notwithstanding that both marriage and divorce rates declined in the USA, in general divorce risk steadily rises in marriage and peaks and then decline for most couples.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of A. Pawlowski, msn(dot)com
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Nobody really wants the divorce to be part of the public news cycle (or made public at all), but starting at the end of this year, the UK will begin livestreaming family cases.

This is another reason why collaborative divorce is so essential for many couples. Not only does it take you and your dispute out of the court system but it makes it completely private and confidential.

I know personally from my clients that being in court is stressful, and having to relive terrible parts of their marriage in an open forum would be unbearable. 

Selected excerpt(s), photo and linked article courtesy of Amy Woodyatt, CNN