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Open, honest communication is the bedrock of any relationship.  Strong communication as well as “connection” are vital components for any successful relationship.  The reality is, life is so busy.  We are pulled into different directions for various reasons.  That is why it is very important to make a ritual of checking in with one another and spending some time touching base on what is happening in each other’s lives and what issues you each may be grappling with.  This may sound extremely simple, but it is vital to take the time and do it right. 

This article has some important tips from a couple’s therapist on how to make it work and be consistent. 

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Jeremy Brown, Fatherly(dot)com
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One might not think it, but meeting someone and falling in love is probably the easiest part of a relationship.  It is looking beyond and seeing a future together and understanding expectations, needs and wants that is more difficult.  If you feel that you are in a relationship that is starting to move into a serious zone for a permanent future, it is important that you sit, talk and discuss each other’s expectations.  It is important that each of you have realistic expectations. 

No one ever has a fairy tale marriage or relationship, and sometimes expectations have to be revisited and possibly rediscussed and resettled. 

This is a good article that explores important expectations about any relationship and what every couple should examine.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Jeremy Brown, Fatherly(dot)com
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While this is still being contested in Texas, apparently Idaho has actually made this law in their state. This is absolutely absurd, and not in any way, shape or form child abuse.  This should be left to the medical professionals who are providing children medical care based on science and facts, not prejudice.

They’ve set this up as a mandatory life sentence for loving parents. At present, most states don’t have mandatory life sentences for murderers and rapists, but for loving parents they’re ready to have a mandatory life sentence?? This is incomprehensible!

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Bil Browning, lgbtqnation(dot)com
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I cannot imagine what the people of Ukraine are facing. In all the horror there have been amazing acts of kindness and bravery.

Despite not being accepted by its own government, a group of LGBTQ 🏳️‍🌈 citizens fought for their country and captured several Russian soldiers.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Molly Sprayregen, lgbtqnation(dot)com
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This is a disturbing new twist.  We previously reported how Christian adoption agencies have refused to grant their services to the LGBTQ Community, but in this article, it exposes how a Tennessee adoption agency sued the federal government seeking to discriminate and deny services to a straight Jewish couple. The Jewish couple is now suing the Tennessee Department of Children Services in State Court, arguing that the adoption agency is state sponsored and therefore should not be allowed to discriminate against them based upon their religion. 

I have never understood adoption agencies that would deny a child the opportunity to have a loving family!

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Bill Browning, lgbtqnation(dot)com
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This article may be simplistic for attorneys, but for the common person who may not necessarily understand or know how the legal system works, this is a good article that explains, for instance that the Family Court is for family matters and can handle Custody and Visitation and other issues with people who are in a family or primary relationship that may involve children.

However, Family Court has NO jurisdiction to grant a divorce. A divorce can only be granted by a Supreme Court Justice in a Supreme Court Action in the State of New York.

That said, there are also specific grounds for which a divorce can be granted. For a very long time there were only six (6) grounds to obtain a divorce in New York.  If you do not establish one of these grounds you could not get divorced.  Fortunately, New York finally caught up with the times and now includes a ground for any couple where their relationship has “irretrievably broken down” and wishes to obtain a divorce.

This is a great article that explains the different grounds and what is required.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Yasmin Young, wyrk(dot)com
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This article looks at different issues, including the small things in life, that can get under someone’s skin, and how to look past some of those things. One item to consider: spending time apart to give each other space which may actually improve your relationship.

I personally like, “chose happiness over winning”.  Is it more important to be right and cause damage to a relationship, or be able to be magnanimous, apologize or even better, give room for both people to be right.

This principal works well, whether to maintain a good relationship or applied to other conflicts in life.  When a person is in conflict with another party, this principal can help resolution.  You have to ask yourself “Is it more important to be right in a particular situation, or for the overall goal would it be better to move forward with a solution rather than to hang on to who is right?”

This is a good read and some of the items are humorous as well as innovative. 😊

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Chaunie Brusie, YourTango(dot)com
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Most people don’t know, but this past January 10^th was “Divorce Day”.  Typically, January sees an increase in divorce because most people decided to wait for the holidays to be over and to start the new year off by moving forward in a different direction.  In 2021, we saw two big celebrity divorces:  Adele, whose comeback album’s major theme was about the dissolution of her marriage, and Kim & Kanye's mega public dissolution of their relationship.

Although divorce is often depicted as something tragic and life altering, and while the pain of the dissolution of a primary relationship is usually evident for most couples, it appears that it's clear that leaving behind a relationship that isn’t good for you can only be a positive thing.  It is a chance for someone to reclaim time and reach better emotional and mental health. 

The landscape of relationships and marriage and divorce has changed.  Studies have shown that the “Millennials” are more cautious and are less likely to get married in the first place compared to other generations.  This article cites a 2018 US Study that suggested 46% of people from 25 to 37 were married, compared to 57% of “Gen X” and 67% of early “Boomers” at that same age.  According to this article, the Millennials have changed attitudes about marriage and divorce.  It is almost as if the younger generation has accepted divorce as a more than possible outcome.  They don’t look at a person who is divorced in such a negative fashion, but rather that they are free of something that wasn’t good for them.  They are also more easily and frequently supportive, offer words of encouragement, and believe that love can be found again.

Selected excerpt(s) and linked article courtesy of Megan Wallace, Cosmopolitan(dot)com
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